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Anonymous asked
Okay, so now im getting older and recognizing the little things from when I was little that pointed towards me being lesbian. However, im VERY attracted to guys, find them attractive, but can't see sex happening. I get nervous in a weird way when guys ask me on dates, it makes me very uncomfortable being like that with men. But when I think of dating and having sex with a woman, it feels right, although I do not feel the same sexual angst towards women. Thoughts?

Hey!

You might be a lesbian, you may be bisexual, it is not necessary to label yourself if you do not wish to. You might be homosexual biromantic which means you have sexual relationships with women however you have emotional romantic relationships with men and women.

Frankie

-LGBT Advice

Anonymous asked
If I don't find men attractive like at all, and I'm attracted to girls but I kinda have feelings for a boy right now, what's that called? I'm confused.

Hi there Anon,

I am making the assumption here that you are probably a female, you might be a bicurious lesbian. Which means that you are attracted to women but you dabble in other areas as well.

Frankie

-LGBT Advice

Anonymous asked
I go to a Christan university. The common view is gay is sin. Ive been back & forth w/my sexuality bc of the environment. Ive had to accept myself 3 times now. Ive been pretty open w/many of my friends about it being a "struggle" that i need to overcome. Im finally accepting myself as gay. Again. I dunno how to go about that w/my friends. I want to come out to them but Im letting the fear or disappointment & disapproval run my life. I hate pretending around them in a place where I cant be open.

If many already know that you have been struggling, but are okay with it anyway, just be honest with them, if they love you, they’ll accept it. There are always going to people that are disappointed in you, regardless of what it is for, you just need to get over that fear and live your life for you.

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thelivelovepride asked
everytime i ask my girlfriend to spend time with me and my family she says she cannt but when she wants me to spend time with them i say yes. i know that my family does not have as much as them n i think that is why she does not want to come over. i do not know if i should even ask her anymore

Talk to her about how you’re feeling, if her spending time with your family is important to you, she needs to know that.

-LGBT Advice <3 

Anonymous asked
I have these two friends, both girls, one is a lesbian and the other is bisexual. I'm a girl and I'm bisexual and just recently I was told that my bisexual friend, Tamson, had feelings for me. I would date her, I mean she is gorgeous and lovely in every way. But, my lesbian friend, Laiken, likes me too. I have had a thing for Laiken for almost a year now and I don't know which one to choose. I want to be with them both but, idk what to do.

You do what your heart tells you to do, only you know what you want, you have to make sure you base the decision on what’s right for you, just make sure you’re careful with their feelings in the process.

-LGBT Advice 

Anonymous asked
hey ! im the guy that likes his good guy friend ! , first off , thanks alot mate , you really helped me , also , like the other anon , do you think its cool if i write him a letter or something , or does that sound too cowardly?, or do you think a verbal face to face is the better ?everythings weird and i dont know how to actually go about doing it or implementing it. and even if, what do i even say , and how do i put it across ? sigh** thanks in advance dude. you guys are amazing <3

Hey there! 

If you think you can communicate it best through a letter then do it that way! Which ever way you feel you will be able to get your feelings across best is what you should choose! 

Also thank you for asking questions, with out dedicated followers like you this wouldn’t be possible!

Cheers and good luck!

-LGBT Advice Team 

Anonymous asked
Hey, so I came out as a lesbian about 2 years ago, but I have no idea how my parents feel about it. When I first told them they didn't seem thrilled, we had a 5 minute talk and since then the subject has never been brought up. Sometimes I think they're really homophobic but i'm not sure if they mean things how they say them. I'm too scared to ask them how they feel, it'll feel like coming out all over again; is there anything I can do to ask them indirectly? has this happened to anyone else?

Hi there Anon!

I would suggest perhaps ask them indirectly through watching a film/tv series with a queer story line in it. That is how I gauged what my mum’s reaction was going to be. I hope you have more luck then I did!

Frankie

-LGBT Advice

Anonymous asked
I like one of my friends who is also a girl, but I'm too shy to tell her I like her and ask her if she likes girls also. I'm thinking about writing her a note or letter and telling her. Any thoughts or advice on how to go about this?

Hello!

Letters are super cute and also there is something really sweet about receiving a handwritten letter especially in the technology age. 

Be honest, to the point and leave everything bare!

May the force be with you!

Frankie

-LGBT Advice